Creating my healthy mojo

A healthy mojo? What’s one of them when it’s at home? For years I’ve “joked” that the devastation caused by being childless not by choice caused my mojo to flee to the other side of the moon. However, the joke had its roots in the truth. My self-confidence was at rock-bottom together with my personal sense of self-worth. My inner flamingo had lost all its vibrant feathers. I felt dull and colourless with little, or nothing, to offer the world. I didn’t even have a mojo let alone a healthy mojo. With the power of Canbace that is changing. Whilst my mojo hasn’t returned to me completely there are very good signs that it is approaching earth’s atmosphere and we will be reunited soon. It may need a little support to withstand “re-entry”, so I’ve come up with five ways that I can pro-actively work towards my aim of a healthy mojo. I’ve added a link to some interesting articles that provide extra information.

A healthy mojo needs smaller goals

When people decide that they need to make changes they often think BIG. You’re stuck in a rut and have been struggling to get out of it for some time. So drastic action is needed, right? No actually. Now I’m all for having a BHAG (Big Hairy Audacious Goal) to aspire to: however, when motivation has been lacking and progress has been slow smaller goals are more appropriate. Set yourself a couple of SMALL GOALS (as opposed to big goals split into smaller steps). Finish the goals and celebrate your success. Repeat a couple of times. When you’ve got a few successes to your name you can gradually increase the size of the goals without fear of overwhelm.

Why Thinking Small Is The Secret To Big Success.

A healthy mojo likes connecting with nature

When I feel really down there is nothing I like more than to take the dogs for a walk along the canal or up into the vines. As long as it is not chucking it down with rain that is. It makes me feel so much better. I enjoy the sights and the sounds. It gets me out into the fresh air and, being a brisk walker, it raises my heartbeat and opens my lungs. During the spring the warmth of the sun raises my spirits no end. The reason why this helps so much is not simply because of the exercise. Connecting with and appreciating nature is beneficial on so many levels. However, I appreciate I am extremely lucky to live in such a beautiful part of the world. So, what about people not so fortunate: people who live in cities or have disabilities which makes accessing nature more difficult? Well the good news is that by simple looking a picture of beautiful places can have the same effect.

How Does Nature Impact Our Well-being?

A healthy mojo likes small acts of kindness

This works on a number of levels. For a start when we are in a rut we focus on US and how we are feeling. The world seems to be against us. We can foster a “victim mentality”: poor me! By helping other people, you begin to realise that other people are struggling too. You discover that some of their lives are far worse than yours which can help you gain some perspective. In addition, if you are helping someone face to face you will (hopefully) be rewarded with a smile. These are infections and have great health benefits too.

11 Surprising Reasons Why You Should Smile Every Day.

A healthy mojo benefits from writing

As you would expect I’m a great fan of this, especially when Free Writing: here’s why. Writing for 5 minutes maximum, not stopping to correct mistakes or think about what to write next, taps into your subconscious and gets to what you REALLY feel. Getting these feelings down on paper, and out of your mind, means there’s less opportunity for you to dwell on them so much. When you revisit the writing after a period of time you begin to “analyse” the writing in a less emotional way. You gain a different perspective about the events and this can have huge benefits. Done correctly writing to heal enables you to reject any “legacy” emotions that are no longer serving you well. Ghosts are laid to rest and you can move one.

How Writing Can Improve Your Mental & Physical Health.

A healthy mojo focuses on progress

When suffering from overwhelm and a lack of motivation a frequent suggestion is to create to-do-lists to increase the structure you have in your day. You have a set of tasks that you need to achieve during the day rather than giving yourself permission to slump on the sofa doing nothing. To-do-list do have their place: however, they are not great when motivation is low or progress is slow. They focus too much on what still needs to be done which increases overwhelm and the pressure to succeed. The first time you don’t complete the task feelings of guilt and failure appear. It is much better at such times to focus on what you have achieved. Rather than a to-do-list create a “I’ve done list.” At the end of each day make a note of what you have achieved and how great that makes you feel.

The Dark Side Of Your To-Do List.

Now that I’m creating a healthier mojo hopefully I will also have a happier mojo too. So that aspect of my mojo doesn’t feel left out next week I will explore five ways to Creating my happy mojo. In the meantime if you missed my first five suggestions about how to build healing momentum you can read it here.

In CANBACE friendship!

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